Ever notice how our brains hop over anything positive? Like why do we hop right over the compliment? Like someone tells you look great but hey there is a scuff on your shoe. Suddenly your entire life falls apart and you start obsessing about how everyone saw the scuff and how stupid you looked and now you never want to leave the house again! Or someone tells you how cute you look and proceeds to tell you about an outfit similar and your brain doesn’t even register the compliment.
This cannot just be me!
Why do we do this? Why do we insist on being miserable and highlighting the negative? Or maybe not even being negative but just totally ignoring that amazing compliment?
It could be because as humans we like to whine, complain and give ourselves excuses so when we fail it hurts a little less. Because we are giant babies after all.
But pain is a part of life whether you like it or not.
So is failure.
So suck it up little babies.
But that isn’t what this post is supposed to be about. This is about how you need to take a compliment.
Take it from me I am the queen of negativity and not being able to take a compliment. But I’m working on it. Hell, that’s more than what a lot of people can say.
Acknowledge the compliment.
It sucks to give a compliment and the person doesn’t say anything. A simple thank you is good. but if you really want to step out of your comfort zone thank you, I know. or Thank you, I’m proud of _____. Some people hate when people see their value. Those people are not of your concern. Just take and enjoy the compliment and even compliment yourself. Win win. You may even encourage the person giving the compliment to learn to do the same.
Don’t obsess and pick it apart.
If someone says something nice don’t screw around with it. Don’t be one of those people who decide to pick it apart every single word and the tone. Just don’t do it! Just accept it, allow yourself to feel good.
A compliment does not show your value. Just as a put down doesn’t show your value. It is not the thing that defines you. It’s just some words. But if it does help motivate you at a healthy level so be it. It was a compliment and it was nice. Now move on. Simple as that.
Now stop being a baby and start enjoying the compliments and live your life.
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