4 Ideas for Self-Acceptance

How does one ever truly learn to accept oneself? It is as difficult and as easy as everyone says. Just do it! But it’s an everyday journey to do so. I know, probably not the answer you were looking for, right?

Everyday of my life is me trying to accept the person that I am. This is so much work some days. Other days I look at myself and am like daaaayyyyuuummmm, I’m cute! How is everybody not all over this? It’s weird and empowering. It feels rebellious and thrilling.

I have a friend and on Instagram and Facebook she loves to express how cute she is. I am both inspired and I cringe (because I have issues).

Growing up, I literally thought in order to be a good person one must put themselves down and never be proud of oneself. Now I’m twisted, but that’s super twisted. Why is thinking yourself cute such a taboo thing? Society says love yourself, but not too much. You don’t want to be seen as vain.

Well, a little vanity and self-love never hurt anyone. So suck it society.

But how do you tell a whole society to screw itself and accept yourself?

Hmmmmmm, (-strokes chin like I have a beard-).

 

1. EMBRACE YOUR DIFFERENCES

I’m strange, weird, sarcastic and intense. I’m chill, low-key, introverted and the life of the party. I am twisted and dark and yet I can make a whole room light up with happiness. I am mysterious and yet an open book. I am impossible to define, like the origins of Twinkies ingredients.

But so are you.

You’re different. We all are. We can never truly be authentic and like anyone else. There is always this little thing inside that makes YOU tick, no one else. Love what you love, do what you do. Look at all the things that make you different, i.e, bigger nose, prominent chin, dark skin, pale skin, bluntness, introverted, or extroverted. Realize that they are you, and how they make you, you. Then embrace them like a squirmy pig and own it.

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2. DON’T COMPARE

I think comparing ourselves to others is pretty normal. But normal doesn’t mean healthy or productive. And normal also sucks. Like what do you see when you imagine normal? I see a plate of cold, overcooked and under-seasoned pasta. Yum, sounds like everything I ever wanted in life.

Loving yourself means not comparing yourself. Just like you wouldn’t compare your boyfriend to another person (well, you shouldn’t. That’s terrible). You shouldn’t do it yourself. So stop it. Stop comparing yourself to others. Oh I’m not this or that. Or Oh I’m too much or too little. Maybe, I don’t do enough of this or that.

So what? So you don’t look like your favorite singer or actor. Maybe you don’t act like how your friends or peers behave. For the last freaking time! Stop comparing yourself to others. It won’t make you feel better and it isn’t going to magically make you be like them or make others not have those traits.

Remember tacos and pizza are both amazing, but they are very very different. I would never compare them, as I am not THAT much of a weirdo (but I clearly do love food).

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3. LEARN TO SAY SCREW IT

A little bit of swearing never hurt anyone. Because one of the biggest lessons I have learned and still continue to learn every single day is to say Fuck it. Fuck society. Fuck what people think about me. Who the hell cares? Deep down, you know you shouldn’t either. So what, I am not where most 24 year olds ‘should be’. So what I’m not what a female is ‘supposed to be’. I don’t care!!! I am who I am and I am this way for a reason. Just like you

This is an extremely important lesson as it will transfer into other areas of life. Someone say something mean to you? Oh well, you have security in yourself and don’t give a damn what others think. Yay for you. Have a cupcake for that win.

When you don’t care what other people think, it is freeing. Ask an older person why they are okay looking stupid or not knowing the answers. More than likely they will tell you it’s because they don’t care what others think and they just learned to say screw it. They may look stupid but there is a certain freedom in it that we all should try to attain.

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4. LIVE YOUR LIFE

Do you wanna be happy or live for someone else? I’m guessing very few of you want to live for someone else. If you do want to live for someone else something is seriously wrong with you and why are you reading this?

Don’t let anything or anyone stop you. Live that life of yours and shock yourself. Shock others. Maybe shock no one. It doesn’t matter, the point is love that beautiful life of yours and live it. But it will only be beautiful if you decide to make it happen. It isn’t magically going to happen. Believe me I’ve tried, like a freaking moron.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and live! Live like you’ve always dreamed. Maybe life doesn’t allow you to do exactly what you want, but try to make that life happen. Life may suck around you but you’ll appreciate at least trying.

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So hopefully you will start trying to practice a little self-love and follow the above advice. It isn’t easy but it’s worth it.

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16 Comments on “4 Ideas for Self-Acceptance

  1. You put a big smile on my face with this post:) It took me a lot more years then I suspect it took you to get to a place where I can live my life for me and not worry about it. I still struggle with complimenting myself or with others complimenting me. It annoys me every time – how flustered I get.

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    • Thank you! I can admit that I still get flustered and I struggle sometimes with accepting myself for who I am. But I think it’s a learning process everyday, because everyday has something new to learn.

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  2. I relate way too much to your post and thoughts, I always feel like people will think that I’m too self centred if I compliment myself, and I also compare myself too much to others that I admire (I have low self esteem). I’ll try to apply your self acceptance ideas 😊 I’ll pin it for later, thank you for sharing !

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    • Thank you. That means so much.
      I hope you can build on your self-esteem. It is such a struggle sometimes. Compliment yourself, even if you are alone. It may help you feel more confident and you won’t have to worry about anyone but yourself for that moment.

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  3. That’s so true what you said about society preaching self-love but not too much or it’s vanity. There’s this weird line between being confident and not being able to say anything complimentary about yourself.
    I loved reading this post. It’s so uplifting x

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  4. I think it’s important to accept the person you are, and no what you are necessarily told by society you should be. Both your good traits and your flaws all make up the person you were created to be. (Interestingly enough, your flaws are very often the dark side of your strengths.) Accepting who you are is the first step to really growing as a person, and developing.
    I always appreciate reading your thoughts!

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      • I think that is part of human nature. Understanding how our own personalities and perspectives can be both strengths and weaknesses can help us grow and learn. It can also broaden our minds and show us how to continue to improve. We’re all work on progress.

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  5. This is a great post. Comparison is definitely the thief of joy and it can be so time consuming, we forget to live life like you mentioned. Not caring what people think about you is very liberating and it’s something I’m working on daily! Thanks for sharing your post- very timely! x

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  6. Such a lovely post! It’s really important to self love and it’s good to be reminded now and again. It’s sooooo hard to not compare yourself to others with apps like Instagram around but you’re right, embrace your uniqueness!

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