8 Secrets Bloggers Will Never Tell You

Blogging is easy. I mean you just sit there, type words, and hit publish. See super easy and what a load of crap. Blogging is so very much harder than that. Like imagine cutting off your own arm, kind of hard. I know other bloggers, professional bloggers, really know how to make it look east, like it’s as simple as spending too much at Target.

Perhaps it really is easy for them. They are always so full of advice and ‘helpful’ tips. But there always seems to be a slew of things that they never really tell you.

So I’m going to do it. I’m going to tell you everything that other bloggers never seem to get into. Well, everything I’ve learned so far.

Imagine me as you blogging genie, only instead of wishes I can just tell you a list of things I’ve learned. Yeah, I know I suck as a genie, wishes are better than wisdom.

So here is a list of things bloggers rarely will, if ever, tell you.


                    BLOGGING IS HARD                     

Yes, yes, I know many of them mention how difficult blogging is. But if you are like me you don’t quite know that ‘hard’ means. I thought difficulty was relative and bloggers will rarely, if ever, tell you about how hard blogging is. They may mention it in passing, but they don’t elaborate on it. What is hard? What did they struggle with while getting started?

When I say blogging is hard, I mean, it’s like trying to eat a taco without any hands. You will become frustrated, discouraged, and wonder why you ever thought this was a good idea.



                  YOUR EYES WILL HURT                         

You never notice how much you need to blink until you’re so focused on writing that you forget to do it. Blogging and staring at a computer screen will do that to you. You eyes will become sore and tired. Then they will feel burny. I mean they will feel like hot sauce in your eyeballs kind of burning. Learn to keep blinking, it’s necessary for a healthy brain and happy eyes. Also, not blinking will wear your brain out faster and your ideas will not flourish as well.



                 YOU WILL BE PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED                              

Blogging is exhausting. Seriously, you feel like you ran a marathon. Every. Single. Day. I’ve had muscles hurt that I didn’t even know existed. This is a weird phenomenon when your job it writing. I was like ‘WTF, how is this even possible. I didn’t even move to have lunch today’.

So when you blog you will need to get up and do some exercises. Just for a couple of minutes. It helps clear your head and your eyes will also thank you with a few moments away from a screen.



                     FINDING YOUR VOICE                       

It’s the hardest thing in the world. Isn’t it? Bloggers like to say ‘find your voice’. What the actual f*** does that even mean? What am I supposed to do? Does it mean decide the voice you need to speak in while you type? By the way, I decided on a Kermit voice.

In all honesty, it means the way you write. What makes you, YOU? That special way you write and see things that no one else can mimic. Your writing ‘tell’. Currently, I am having the hardest time finding said ‘voice’. I write posts and people either love then or hate them, but at the same time I’m feeling empty. Each post has something missing. A piece of it that I’ve yet to find. The piece known as……..me. Where is my voice? What do I have to say?



                     YOU WILL BE BLOCKED                          

By blocked I mean writer’s block. You will write so many things that eventually the ideas stop. Every corner and crevice of your brain will be used up. You will want to throw your laptop against the wall and decide to become a hermit that lives in cave. Because let’s be honest that would be sooo f****** easier.

I was a cocky little bitch when I first started blogging. I didn’t think I could be blocked. Like somehow I was f****** special. You are not special here! You will get blocked and it will suck! Write through it anyway. That is truly the only way to get through a writer’s block.



                   YOUR WILL CHANGE COURSE/REBRAND                      

Bloggers like to say ‘find a niche’. It’s scary thinking you need to find one area and write about that. Isn’t it? Well, here is some good news; you don’t have to have a niche. But you do need a purpose. A fantastic blogger once told me ‘decide what your blogs purpose is’.

Early on you will think you found the perfect thing and then one day you will decide it isn’t cutting it. You may want to rebrand. That’s okay. You will just want to ease your readers into the NEW brand. In fact, I am currently in the process of rebranding a bit. I think I know what I need to do and I’m taking the necessary steps to find my voice, and that includes rebranding.



                 PEOPLE WON’T TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY                       

When you first start blogging you will be excited and you will want to tell people. Oh, just me? Okay. Anyway, when you first start blogging your friends and family will humor you and they may even read your posts. Then the day will come that you tell a stranger what you do and they will basically mock you. Maybe not directly but you can tell they think you are super lazy. Being a millennial makes it even more awkward because these people will automatically act like you are just a lazy kid who doesn’t want to get a real job and be responsible.

In the end who really gives a crap what these people think about you. You do you. It is just nice to be warned before hand that this is not a conventional life course. People don’t like those who are non conventional.

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                  YOU WON’T MAKE MONEY                       

I know, I know, you started a blog because you saw something where bloggers make bags and bags of money. To be truthful there are a few who do. And there are bloggers who like to talk about how much money they made in  just a few short months from starting a blog. Don’t get me wrong I’m not hating on them or calling them fake or anything. They are definitely hard workers.

But when you blog you need to be halfway realistic and realize that making a bunch of money is probably not going to happen, at least not very quickly. You just got to stay persistent and keep working at your brand. Become indispensable and work hard and try to build something great. Maybe you will make money, but don’t stress. Even if you never make money it doesn’t make you less of a blogger.

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Now that you know the dirty little secrets of bloggers go forth and blog your heart out. Because if these don’t scare you, then you’re cut out for this.


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29 Comments on “8 Secrets Bloggers Will Never Tell You

  1. Great, and honest list. Finding a “voice” is a great point – and to that end, bloggers should never pander for “clicks”, it’s obvious and just comes across as phony and inauthentic. So why do it? Well, that’s for each individual blogger to decide, right? Again, great article.

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    • Thank you! Agreed, pandering for clicks is really obvious and really annoying. Like it looks like they are doing ‘well’ but it’s a lie and it stresses people out when they are actually working hard.

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      • I will share links sometimes, if it seems appropriate to what is being discussed, and I always say “if you are interested”…your points are great

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      • Exactly, I do the same thing. Like refer to a previous post so I don’t rehash the same information over and over. Thank you!


  2. I feel like you do have your own voice and it’s a sarcastic one which I really like because it’s fun to read. I hate overly complicated blogs. Also it is true that as a blogger you’re most likely never getting a huge amount of money super fast. I think as a blogger you just want to avoid putting ads on your website because you want your readers to enjoy what you have to say. I do recommend affiliate links instead. But it’s all about the amount of traffic you get, that will bring you to the money. So having both loyal readers and random readers are good for your blog, that’s how companies will contact you. Oh yeah & engagement too.

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    • Thank you! That is the best compliment I could ever get. I like to be funny and sarcastic but it’s tough sometimes. So thanks.
      Yes! Overly complicated are blogs are awful to read and feel ‘preachy’ sometimes, like ‘do as I say, or fail’. Couldn’t agree more about adds. I hard those blogs that won’t load properly because they are so overloaded with adds and crap. Like I just wanted to read the damn article.

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  3. Go on say it, they are telling fibs, all those bloggers that say they are cashing in – I don’t believe a bit of it.
    You keep going, persistence is the best route to success.

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    • Exactly, I’m still having to remind myself it is okay that I’m not making money and I’m still small. Just got to push through and make sure other bloggers understand. Thanks

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    • Thank you so much! Makes me feel so good. I tried to make it relatable as I would have loved to know this stuff when I started. 🙂


  4. Haha Yes! I would also add … 99% likely your market is saturated making it hard to be heard.
    Or maybe that’s how I feel … I used to write one of a handful of blogs about thrifty vintage in London and now I review/mummy blog!

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    • OMG yes, I realize how saturated it is and it is so frustrating. Like I want to be successful and yet I know I have to both set myself apart and just have fun. I think we forget to have fun with blogging.


  5. Spot on! Everyday I want to get up and scream “Show me the money!” :D. I have not even told my friends about my blog yet so at to not get discouraged by their negative attitude and comments.

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    • Hahaha AGREED!!! I have to check myself everyday and go ‘chill! Stop being a crazy woman and learn some damn patience’.
      My friends know but they never speak of my blog so part of me wishes I never had said anything to them. It’s sad they can’t be more supportive.


  6. I agree that sometimes it is really such a discouraging hobby! I’m lucky enough for it to be just a hobby for now. To me, the hardest is to “find your voice”, and stick to it! Great post! x

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  7. I love how honest you are when you write, and I agree with you a lot on this list. Blogging can be a bit scary, but I’ve found that I enjoy it a lot, and it gives me an outlet to help people.

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    • Thank you! I try to be as honest as possible. My dad used to tell me I was painfully honest when I was a kid, so I guess I might still be. And blogging really is a great outlet, I have been loving it. Even on the hard days when I wanna give up in the end it makes me feel happy.

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  8. I Love your voice! Your post made me smile this morning (and that’s not easy – am not a morning person). The block thing is my greatest fear:)


    • Thank you! I am not a morning person either so I feel you. Block is tough, isn’t it? lol I just try to write through it, even when what I write is crap. I believe I learned that from Stephen King.

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